The greatest thing about frustration is that it actually makes you feel something.
You know some of us go throughout life without feeling anything and a life without feelings isn't life at all.
If you're frustrated, congratulations...at least you're FEELING something. Frustration pushes us in a certain direction.
Frustration leads to change. Frustration leads to action...if you allow it. The feeling of frustration is wanting something a certain way or maybe you're in a situation too long and your frustration is letting you know. Perhaps you need to make a personal change and being frustrated enough will force you to change.
Don't just settle for your frustration, figure out where your 'POINT OF CHANGE' is. What are you frustrated about and what needs to change? I believe the frustration is a expression of your inner desire to be at a new state of life- perhaps it's a signal to you that you need to move the needle forward somehow or someway.
This is not a 10 point article- just 2 points...how about that?
I'm learning to do one of 2 things when I'm frustrated, #1) Call somebody to help me find clarity or #2) Be alone, dig deep to get clarity.
#1) CALL SOMEONE. GET CLARITY.
The beauty about life is that we are connected. People are the greatest resource you have in your life. Even if you feel like you're alone, you're never really alone. You may have to stand up in certain situations on your own two feet, but I believe there is always a lifeline!!!! A friend of mine once told me that, "When you're ready...really ready to move your life forward, there are at least 5 people in your circle to help you move ahead!"
I really believe that.
I think there are times where you just have to vent out your frustrations to someone. Sometimes, a healthy chat is all you need. Sometimes, I believe frustration is just unexpressed emotion and it's time to GET THAT S*&^T OUT! Don't explode! If you don't express your emotions, you're going to EXPLODE or IMPLODE. I'm not sure which one is better or worse! Listen, you can get help on two levels- call a close friend and TALK to your friends about what's really bugging you OR if you feel like you're beyond that, you might want to additionally get some professional help.
Life can get a little tough for all of us- never be ashamed to reach out for help. The key is, when you're talking to someone, listen to their advice, but most of all...their perspective. Most times, we are looking at our lives from only one direction. It's like sometimes we need someone to give us an 'ariel view' of our lives. We need someone to help us see that big picture.
For me, that person is usually a mentor or a spiritual guide. I've always had someone like that in my life that I can call and get some clarity. They don't give me the answers because that really comes from within, they just help TURN THE LIGHT ON. That's what we're all looking for. LIGHT. Clarity. A door. An open heaven of sorts to help us see our way though life.
#2) SPENDING TIME ALONE- DIGGING DEEP FOR CLARITY.
I believe that all of us are like WELLS. We have deep STUFF swooshing around inside of us and we just need to TAP INTO THE WELL. For most of us, our lives are like a RUN ON SENTENCE!!! Stop it already! LOL! We just need to come to a full stop....breathe...collect ourselves....then continue.
My mentor has really been encouraging me to get some rest...not just physical rest, but allowing my mind to rest so that I can be more effective in everything else that I do. I find that when I am fatigued, I waste a lot of time.
When you feel frustrated, a lot of times, your mind is just TIRED. It's hard and almost impossible to be at your creative best when you are fatigued and frustration certainly cuts off that creative energy. You have to find your place of calm...even in the middle of the storm.
Steal away time. Go and journal. Go for a walk...OFTEN. Take time off. Stop your mind from running. Even computers have to reboot and SO DO YOU.
Feeling frustrated is often a sign that inside of you, YOU JUST NEED TO SHUT DOWN. Shut down and hit the RESTART button.
But most of all, when you're 'shutting down'....LISTEN TO YOUR SOUL. All of us are looking for answers and something to ground us and for the most part, the ANSWERS are within us. Just like the body for the most part is a SELF-HEALING machine, we are also SELF-HEALERS within. We can soothe ourselves. Most of the time, we already have the answers to our own questions. We just need to QUIET the noise and LISTEN to our soul. I encourage people to journal and in your times of rest, write down the thoughts that come to mind and learn to listen to your soul.
YOU'RE RESTING TO GET CLARITY.
YOU'RE RESTING TO QUIET THE NOISE AND GET SOME ANSWERS.
YOU'RE SLOWING DOWN SO THAT YOU CAN ACTUALLY GET TO WHERE YOU WANT TO BE...probably quicker than you think.
Maybe you can look at your frustration differently. I know it sounds weird, but maybe you should embrace it...it's telling you something.
What is life saying to you?
Take some time out. Get it all out. And you'll see it. You'll get the message.
I believe in you :)