ENOUGH of the hesitation and fear and sadness and questioning....it's OUR TIME WOMEN! It's our time to rise up and know who we are and stand in who we are. We need to support each other and raise other young women up.
There is a wonderful collective movement happening again because that's what great women do.....WE MOVE! Women are beginning to RISE up and here's what I know- one woman can do amazing things, but TOGETHER, we are an UNSTOPPABLE army.
So, here are some things we can do individually and collectively to SEIZE OUR FINEST MOMENT:
1. LIFT ANOTHER WOMAN UP.
I say this all the time and I really do mean it. Take time to lift someone up and I'm not talking about simply being positive with one another, but find at least ONE woman (or more, but at least one), whether it is a friend who is struggling or maybe a young woman you are mentoring and BE COMMITTED TO her success. LIFT HER UP. Help her. We've all been down and out and know what that feels like. Find one person and be committed to her success.
2. DON'T HATE.....CONGRATULATE!!!!
I used to go to a church and the pastor would say this ALL THE TIME!!! LOL!!! But, isn't it true? Don't hate. Congratulate. It doesn't help you to hate on other people! Just because someone is doing well is no reason to be hateful. Your life is your life and God has a great plan for you. Let's not let jealousy and pettiness steal us from discovering ourselves and celebrating what's great about us. And a little secret....the more you love yourself and accept yourself, the more open you can be to finding joy in the success of others.
3. BE A PHENOMENAL LEADER.
I have seen this all the time and continue to see something that breaks my heart....when female supervisors fail to be a great example or great leader to their female counterparts because of the whole inferiority complex or many times....simply put....jealousy. We need to be responsible leaders and be PHENOMENAL. If you are seasoned in your career, why not lift up all the women around you? Where is the fear and why not see the women around you through to ultimate success? I've experienced it firsthand where maybe a particular leader or maybe someone with some type of influence in my life could not find it within themselves to be complimentary and at times, may have even tried to hinder my success. If this is happening to you, don't be discouraged either! Find your own way of moving your life forward. But if you are a woman in leadership- BE A PHENOMENAL LEADER. Be approachable. Be kind. Be compassionate. Be assertive IN THE RIGHT WAY. We hear all this all the time about being assertive and I'm not saying that is not important, but WITHOUT LOVE and the right heart towards a person, your assertiveness isn't accomplishing anything. Seek the highest good for the women around you.
4. HAVE A VISION FOR YOUR LIFE.
Have you set aside time yet to work on your vision for your life? I know as women, it's hard to set aside time for ourselves. I believe we all need to set aside times to rest, but also set aside time to plan. You'll find that your years will pass you by quickly- more quickly than you think and you'll think, 'Where did all the time go?' LOL! You have one life to live and you owe it to yourself to seize your FINEST moments. You know what I do sometimes? Sometimes I go to my favorite book store and get a cup of coffee and sit along the window with my favorite fashion magazine and my journal and just ME! I take time out to relax my mind and then I IMAGINE. I IMAGINE my next step. I VISUALIZE. I visualize my future and what I want it to be. I JOURNAL. I write about the things that I want to accomplish and the things I want to do better. I even journal about my frustrations. Most of all, I determine the next steps for my life. Try it! However you do it, take time out for yourself and chart out your next steps.
5. DON'T BE AFRAID TO MAKE A CHANGE.
Life presents us with so many opportunities and it really is quite difficult at times to know which door to walk through! Listen, go ahead and make a change if you want to make a change. If you want to change your field of work, do it. Dreams do come true. You owe it to yourself to be happy and fulfilled. If you're not fulfilled in your career, NOW is your chance to admit that and GO FOR SOMETHING GREATER.
6. GET HELP.
There's nothing more BRAVE than saying to someone, "I NEED HELP." It will help you GREATLY if you find a few trusted friends and explain to them your deepest challenges. Please do that! Please don't DO LIFE ALONE. Honey, you're going to NEED somebody. You need someone to LIFT YOU UP. Be sure to reach out for help in any given area whether through a personal friend or professional help if need be. STRONG women ask for help!!!
7. BE THE BRIDGE. INCLUDE OTHERS.
You know, we see this a lot of times in the media or at events or at gatherings...the lack of inclusion of others. Let's make sure we're including each other and bringing diverse voices to the table whenever we can. Success is reflective. Young black women say to me all the time, "I've never met a black fashion designer. It's so inspiring!" You know, it reminds me how important it is, that in my brand, I INCLUDE ALL cultures and ALL women in my marketing- white, black, indian, asian, and more! Let's be sure that when we do events or host meetings or go about various initiatives that we INCLUDE others- it is SO BEAUTIFUL when we come together across all of our differences and push each other forward. Many times, we do not build those bridges simply because of fear or because of the unknown. I have always been a person who loves cultures and my friends are every color and culture you can imagine and I LOVE IT! Let's work to include others in everything we do.
8. SHINE WHERE YOU ARE.
We've all looked at other women at times and WISHED we were someone else. Everyone else's life looks so perfect, right? Well, honey, you gotta ROCK WHAT YOU GOT!!!! Be happy about who you are an enjoy your success. We need you to be your authentic self. You have a purpose and there's a reason why you're so AWESOME! :) When you are working in your job or in your business, know that you are needed. You fill a gap. You are a link. Be the link. Speak up in meetings. Give your opinion. Come up with new ideas. Do something amazing. Don't shy away from knowing that you are an asset wherever you go!
9. STRETCH YOURSELF.
Being uncomfortable is often a beautiful gift! Stretch yourself! Know that you can do even more than what you can imagine. You are more capable than you think. DO NOT underestimate yourself. You are amazing. You can go far. You can do. You can achieve your highest goals and MORE. Do not allow yourself to be limited and DO NOT LIMIT YOURSELF.
10. BIG DREAMS, SMALL STEPS.
Your greatest moment is NOW. Seize it. Remember that we all take one step after the other to make big dreams come true! We are destined for greatness and we need to celebrate our progress every step of the way. Take a step towards your dream....BUT KEEP DREAMING BIG! Give yourself AND the people around you a chance. What's your dream and what small significant step will you take and keep taking to make your dreams happen!
WOMEN, IT'S OUR TIME!!! It's our time to SHINE IN OUR GREATNESS, face our obstacles and OVERCOME ANYTHING that comes.
Remember that we are amazing all on our own, and together, WE ARE UNSTOPPABLE!!!!
Love you and I believe in you!